Reset Your Counters

We have all heard the phrase "Nothing is certain but death and taxes," but it can't be further than the truth. In this world we are surrounded by negative people, harsh circumstances, rejection, and let's not forget about Murphy, who likes to show up uninvited at the last minute. The result of such a barrage, leaves more than just a bad taste in our mouths. It can turn us sour on an activity, a relationship, our dreams, and can even taint the way we see ourselves. These actions can lead to depression, sickness and even death. You see, it takes more than just a positive attitude. We need to reset our counters every day.

We all have internal counters that we aren't aware of. They go on every moment of our lives counting everything that happens to us. How many "no's" have you received since Kindergarten? How many "at-a-boy's", rejections, and much more are being recorded every moment? This puts an enormous strain on our success. It's a mountain that we must overcome each time we try to break out of our routine or box.

Have you noticed that a child believes that he can "do" anything? It doesn't matter what it is. He is fully convinced that he can ride a skateboard, or jump off the diving board, or pet the huge dog in the park without hesitation even if he has never done it before. It's because they don't have a mountain of "no's" they have to overcome. Their counters haven't reached those astronomical numbers that we have to face.

That's why we must sit back and reset our counters. There are several ways to do this.

Our counters have a way of resetting themselves with time. Have you noticed that you can be on the phone with an annoying person, who pushes all your buttons, and can get you to lose your cool? When the next person calls you bite their head off, even if they ask a simple question. Your counter was full. The aggressions, attacks, and offenses the counters had recorded were at the highest level and you answered in kind. This is very common in marriages. The working spouse or spouses enter the "arena" with their counters at full count.

Another way to reset your counters is to not have them "on". When you are part of something greater, then the counters are "tricked" into believing that the "rejections" are not directed toward you. Think of a job where you have to call 1,000 people and ask them to join the company you are working for. The entire list may be full of "No's", but in the end you won't care because it really didn't matter. Your job was to call and offer them the switch, that's all. The "No's" were directed to the company. Special Note: When you connect to something universal or even Godly, you will be even greater off.

One other way to reset the counters is to be conscious of them. Realize that they exist and make an effort to forgive those people who have offended, rejected, or hurt you. Change your perspective on the events of your life and redefine them from a positive paradigm. If you had your business stolen from you or your house was destroyed by a disaster, then see the events as learning experiences.

These shifts in the way you see things have been the suggestions of motivational speakers for years. But now you understand what they are asking you to do. You need to reset your counter.

When we can face life's challenges with fresh eyes and with our counters at zero, we will be able to do anything.

Fear Will Destroy You

One of the greatest obstacles to success is none other than Fear. When someone mentions fear images of monsters are conjured up. Dracula, the Mummy, Frankenstein’s Monster walk out of the recesses of our mind as emissaries of FEAR. But in reality it isn’t the Hollywood produced creatures that paralyze our prosperous future. It is the common garden variety of fear that does the most damage. It’s the heart pounding that you feel when you know you have to talk to someone about your product. It’s the reluctance you feel when you look at the phone on your desk, dreading to make those phone calls.

I don’t know why we have those feelings. But I do know that we all experience them from time to time. And if left unchecked, they will destroy your future just as sure as a constant drip of water will eventually break a cinder block. The existence of these feelings cannot be avoided but we can certainly take measures to avoid their residence in our mind and especially in our heart.

As you know, thoughts and ideas soar and float in and out of our mind. At times they enter like a fast moving train with force and a purpose, while at other times they creep up on you like a fog, slowly filling in the crevasses of your mind, taking over your entire thought process. But we are in control of what remains there and what we will meditate on. What we meditate on will eventually be written on our heart. What is written on our heart becomes a life directive.

If you are succumbing to fear you are allowing that thought to take hold of your heart.

Some would say that if you cannot talk to clients then you shouldn’t be in sales, but I disagree. Perhaps you shouldn’t be selling that product or service but in life we are all in sales in one form or another. But you will not be able to stand against that fear that is causing you to fail by simply resisting. To stand against fear by saying “I’m not afraid”, or “They like me” or something like that will not help you overcome in this area. As a black belt in Aikido I’ve learned that you cannot win by simply being stronger than the opponent, and you cannot win by trying to be impervious to the other one’s blows and strikes.

The key to overcoming that fear is PASSION, not resistance. When you become passionate about your product, service, idea or thought you will be able to talk to anyone about it. In fact you will be keenly aware of openings in conversations where you can insert yourself. Your passion will carry you past the fear that made you stumble before.

Do you want to overcome that fear in your life? Find your passion and invest in it. Believe in it. When you are consumed by it then nothing will be able to stop you.